How to Be Positive

“Just be positive” they say. Well unfortunately, being positive is easier said than done for many people. In the face of adversity many of us begin to tremble in fear of what could go wrong. Whenever things don’t go our way we blame ourselves and if you are someone who believes in God, you blame Him too. You might ask questions like, “Why me?” Or “What did I ever do to deserve this?” We all go through phases in life where we feel like nothing’s going right. It’s as if the entire universe is against you. However, that is NOT true. You just have to go through the worst storm in order to see the most beautiful rainbow.
Failure/Rejection LEADS to Success:
It is so crucial for you to understand that failure and rejection should be viewed positively. Without those things, you wouldn’t get to where you want to go. Think of it this way: they are the streets you have to go through and endure all the hardships and hurdles that come along your path. At times it’ll seem like they are slowing you down and holding you back but in reality they are bringing you closer to your destination and not only that, but they are also making you STRONGER and WISER.
Thomas Edison is the man who invented the lightbulb and without him we would all be standing in the dark holding our candles. However, his teachers always said that he was “too stupid to learn anything.” He was fired from jobs for being “non-productive” and made 1,000 unsuccessful attempts at inventing the light bulb before he finally succeeded. When a reporter asked how he felt about failing 1,000 times, Edison replied by saying “I didn’t fail 1,000 times, the light bulb was an invention with 1,000 steps”. If Edison had given up after his 100th try or even before that, perhaps we wouldn’t have a light bulb today. He is only one of many examples. Take it upon yourself to google who invented what and how many tries it took them. No one ever created a wonderful, functioning invention in just one step. It takes persistence, perseverance and patience.
The truth is, you will probably fail or get rejected SEVERAL times before you get that one shot at success. It is up to you to NEVER give up and give your best EVERYDAY. The more you TRY, the CLOSER you are getting to your goal. Being positive means fighting against all odds and knowing that there is light at the end of the tunnel, but if you don’t try to learn from your mistakes/decisions and choose to give up instead, then you’ll never see that light.


Expect NOTHING, Appreciate EVERYTHING:
Being optimistic can definitely be hard but it’s not impossible. Many times we go into situations and start expecting a lot. When our expectations are not met, we feel sad and depressed. However, the key to enjoying life is to always expect nothing and appreciate everything. Be humble and just enjoy life because it is a precious gift. Remember, Cinderella never asked for a Prince, she simply asked for a night off. She didn’t expect much from life except for the wish to get dressed up and go to a ball for a few hours. In return, she got everything she could ever need but never thought of asking. For the first time, she got true love and acceptance. They say that God’s best gifts are unanswered prayers. He might not give you what you want right now. But He will give you something BETTER when the time is RIGHT. If you believe in God, then have faith in that. If you don’t, then we still urge you to have faith in yourself because everyday is a new page in your book, so why not make it a memorable story? And it’s so important to always believe that you will have a happy ending. Things might not go your way today but once you STOP expecting and START doing things with a OPEN mind, you will see more of your goals being accomplished.


Let go:
If something is hurting you or bothering you then let it go. Whether it is a group of friends that are always negative or just something you do that doesn’t make YOU happy. You honestly just have to know your worth and understand that you NEED to let go because you DESERVE better. Once you realize that being yourself should be good enough for the people in your life, you will see that letting go of the ones who don’t appreciate you is not that hard because you are simply letting go of people who didn’t see YOUR WORTH. You should not have to waste YOUR time on someone or something that does not understand your value or pushes you to be better. They say that sometimes holding on does more damage than letting go. Be courageous and try to find out what is RIGHT for you. Find out what makes YOU happy. Being happy is definitely possible. But it’s a CHOICE.

Go FORWARD, and DON’T look back:
Don’t ever let your past keep you down. You are a new person today. You are given a new day to be a better you. Don’t waste time today, regretting what happened yesterday. Focus on tomorrow. If Cinderella had gone back to get her shoe, she would not have become a princess. Take that as a reminder to always go FORWARD. Don’t let the past drag you back and have it destroy your today and tomorrow. Keep your eyes on the prize. Have a CLEAR vision of where you see yourself a year from now and work relentlessly to achieve your dreams. We have all spent those nights thinking about the “what ifs” in our lives like “what if I said I liked him instead of walking away?” or “what if I studied harder for that test?”. The problem with these questions is that they don’t help you NOW. Rather, these “what ifs” hold you in the past. They are just bringing your focus to moments you aren’t proud of. So instead of laying awake at night thinking about the “what ifs”, spend your days working to make yourself happy so that you can fall into bed with no other worry than getting your eight hours of sleep and looking forward to a new day that will bring forth new opportunities. Dream tonight and turn it into a reality tomorrow.


It’s Worth It:
Your life is worth living and although there might be moments where you question your purpose, know that if you give up, you’ll deprive this world of a beautiful talent. A beautiful heart. A beautiful mind. Use your skills and if you don’t know what skills you have, then try to find them. Experiment with new things and find your place. You might trip, you might fall, you might get bruised. No one said life was going to be easy. But although life may not be easy, it is worth it all. Hustle today for tomorrow. And along the path, don’t give up. All the “bad things” that happen to you are a blessing in disguise because they are EXPERIENCES that make you so much stronger than yesterday.

Stop being afraid of what could go wrong and start being positive about what could go right. You have the power to make yourself happy. Take whatever life throws at you and turn it into an opportunity, experience and a blessing.

Remember, if you ever need anyone to talk to, S & B are here to be your best friends.


S & B

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