High school is a roller coaster. For some it’s the best four years of your life, for others not so much. And believe us, high school is nothing like what they show on T.V. It’s not High School Musical and it’s not Gossip Girl. It’s reality! And even though it’s not as glamorous, it is most certainly what you make of it! So walk into and finish high school with a positive attitude and please we urge you to be kind, open minded and accepting of everyone throughout your journey.
One thing that seems common among all high schools are cliques! Cliques are groups of people who just stick together and tend to be exclusive. Its unfortunate that these groups divide people and make it harder for others to join in. If you feel like you won’t be accepted for who your are, then these people are not meant to be your friend soulmates. In addition, if you have the slightest feeling that someone is using you for whatever reasons, whether it be for your intelligence or any other skill, STEP BACK. These are not the types of people you should even let close to you. They will take advantage of you when they NEED you and then when they are done, they won’t even acknowledge you. “When you know your worth, you’ll stop giving people discounts.”
Stay away from people who cause drama and rather find people who are trustworthy and won’t drag you into negativity all the time. If you find that you are in such a group but don’t know how to get out, then our advice to you is to just be honest with them and step back. It will save you the hassle, the drama, the friction and the negativity.
You might finish high school and still have not found a “best friend/friend soulmate” and that’s absolutely okay! In university/college you will definitely find people in your program with whom you share interests and a similar mindset. So be patient and don’t ever feel lonely because you don’t have your perfect “BFF”. Life will reward you with your friend soulmate at the right time.
It’s so important to just BE YOURSELF in high school! Instead of being a 2nd copy of someone else, remember, the original is worth more. Don’t be afraid to tell people what you think and what opinions you have. Stand up for what you believe in, even if you are the only one standing. Lots of people lose themselves in high school, but it’s so important to be that one person that truly finds himself/herself! “Don’t trade authenticity for approval.” You are not a front door mat, so don’t let yourself get stepped on. Stand up for yourself and believe in yourself because if you don’t do that, no one else will either.
Also don’t get influenced by the “hookup culture” and feel that you NEED to hookup with someone. There is no need to be obsessed with hooking up with multiple people at such a young age. You STILL HAVE TIME. Instead of getting caught up with random hookups understand that “every man isn’t qualified to love you, touch you, or date you. Reserve your heart for the gentleman who wants a lifetime commitment, not a rental moment.” Many times people feel like they are lonely and that’s why perhaps just one hookup might solve that, but in reality “settling for crumbs, doesn’t keep you fed. It keeps you starving.” Most of all, don’t let people make you think that it’s a “competition” out there and that you need to get “things over with.” It is most certainly not a competition, and you don’t have to let people make you feel bad about not having a certain “experience”. If you choose to be with someone, then do it solely for YOURSELF, and NOT because you feel like it is a race, competition or a game. Also an important note: It is definitely not wrong to meet someone nice at a club/bar/party and hook up with them, the problem is when you do it FOR the “game/story.” Always, remember “Anything worth having is worth waiting for, so don’t rush things.”
Bullies exist everywhere and if you are a victim of this, then the worst possible thing you could ever do is nothing. Or if you see someone else get bullied, don’t just stand there and watch what’s happening. Stand up for them. We know it’s much easier said than done, but you don’t have to literally get into an argument with a bully, rather you can find an adult such as a teacher, principal or parent to talk to and they will be sure to handle the issue from there in a sophisticated manner. A lot of bullies have their own insecurities and they feel that belittling others will make them better. However, they fail to understand that “blowing someone else’s candle, doesn’t make [theirs] shine any brighter.” With that being said, don’t be a bully yourself. Don’t fill your heart with hatred or jealousy. These feelings are so heavy that they will always keep you down. Rather, learn to smile and appreciate others and their achievements. Say things such as “congratulations/good job/I’m proud of you/you’re such a hard worker, you deserve everything coming for you” and so forth. There is no harm in uplifting others. Knowing that you’re the reason someone smiled today will make you happy too.
PUT YOURSELF OUT THERE! If we could go back, we would definitely tell our younger-self to be more involved. Whether it be extra-curriculars/clubs, volunteering, coming up with new initiatives for our school and so much more. Doing these things in high school allows you to broaden your horizons and embark on challenges that could be very rewarding. Many universities/work places also admire and appreciate people who found a balance between school and their hobbies/passion. So definitely do not think that only your marks matter in high school! That’s not true! If anything you want to be able to find a balance and this in return will allow you to grow as an individual and a leader. You will also be surrounding yourself with people who have similar interests as you and thus it’ll help you make wonderful friends.
Most importantly, be a STELLAR STUDENT:
Go to class on time, do your homework, be organized and don’t procrastinate. We know that so many people always say here in Canada, “but marks don’t matter in Grade 9 and 10” and yes while that’s true, that does not mean you can slack off for two years and then struggle the last two! Your studying habits in Grade 9 and 10 will set a foundation and path for you. They’ll help you drive yourself in Grade 11 and 12 and later university/college. The more you hustle from the very beginning the more you will help your own work ethic and then stress and heavy workloads will be much easier for you to manage.
Our past few articles can help you a lot in high school:
How to be confident
How to be positive
How to deal with crushes
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And remember, “God changes caterpillars into butterflies, sand into pearls, and coal into diamonds using time and pressure. He’s working on you too.” – Rick Warren
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