Are you single? Do you feel lonely and sad sometimes because you don’t have that someone special? Do you feel left out?
If so, this post is for you!!
A bunch of people think that being single sucks. They treat it as a disease that they need to get rid of at any cost. We’ve all been there. Dreading the single life day by day and just feeling like something is missing from our lives. When we see a cute couple, we feel our heart sinking. This feeling makes us think that we’re lonely and we NEED someone to be right beside us. Someone whose hand you can hold, someone who will be your shoulder to cry on when things get tough, someone who will encourage you and uplift you to bring out the best in you, someone who will text you first thing in the morning and right before they go to bed at night, someone who will make the efforts to show you they care, someone who will love you unconditionally always and forever. And yes while these things sound perfect, you DO NOT need to beat yourself up about not having these things RIGHT NOW. Just understand that your time will come, and it may not be today but that’s okay because being single is not actually that bad. S & B are here to let you all know how to find happiness in being single. Just know that being single is not an obstacle in your way. Being single may just be a blessing in disguise and you just need to look at life from a different perspective.
5 important things to keep in mind:
- Patience is an important virtue:
Being single may be God’s way of telling you, “Keep holding on, I have got someone amazing coming your way.” You deserve the very best and you know that, we know that and God knows that. So be patient, because things will fall into place when they’re meant to be. Sometimes you might not be in the right phase of your life and maybe you need to focus on yourself before you can focus on someone else.
- Don’t settle just because you feel left out or lonely:
It’s so much better to be single than be in the wrong relationship where you feel unhappy and where you might have to spend every day questioning and over analyzing someone’s intentions and actions. There are many people out there who will play with your feelings only to leave you broken at the end. A very inspiring quote that came across our social media was a screenshot of a text a mom sent to her child. In that text she said, “It took me nine months to form your heart, do not let anyone break it in 15 seconds.” You are worth so much more and you deserve to have your heart protected and guarded and not constantly attacked. If anything, settling will make you feel more unhappy than ever.
- Know and understand your priorities, passions and goals:
Being single is actually great because it allows you to give YOURSELF more time. It allows you to sit down and actually think to yourself, “Hmm what do I want to do with my life? Where do I see myself in the next 3-5 years? What am I going to do to get there?” Instead of obsessing over that one person that made you doubt yourself and your worth, delete them from your mind and walk away like a boss because as Serena Van der Woodsen said in Gossip Girl, “People don’t tell you who you are, you tell them.” Build your own success story rather than waiting hopelessly for a fairy tale.
- Find love in other places:
Dating is not the only key to love. Find love and happiness by surrounding youself with friends and family. These people will be by your side no matter what. They know you inside and out and love you for YOU. Don’t dismiss their love as not as significant because it is VERY significant. In fact it should be enough to keep you going and keep you happy all day. Don’t let a failed relationship or a broken heart be the reason you feel like you can never find true love. YOU TOTALLY CAN. Love is all around you and never forget to give love to others as well. Surround yourself with this love and positivity and one day you can share that with your soulmate.
- Don’t be so specific about what you are looking for:
Being single means you have the opportunity to branch out and meet new people of different backgrounds. Don’t keep a checklist in your mind of what you THINK you need/want. What you get might be something completely different and beyond what you could have ever dreamed of. So don’t push people away just because they don’t match your “criteria” 100%.
The next time you see a cute couple, don’t be jealous of them. Be inspired by their love and know that one day you too will have the love of your life by your side. Love is not a game nor a race. Some people find it earlier, some find it later. Everyone is unique and everyone has a different match. Be patient and don’t hopelessly sit in one place wishing for your crush to ask you out. Focus on your growth and journey and along that path, you will find “the one”. So, keep walking forward and don’t let jealousy and the feelings of loneliness hold you back.
Note: We do not own any of the pictures used in this post.
S & B